Sadly, I am going to have to break up her birth story into segments. Because there is SO much to document and detail. So I am starting off with the main part of how I went into labor, had her, etc. I’ll write up separate entries over the coming days to document each individual thing that I experienced after surgery and what happened. Look forward to FUN TALES about hematomas, spinal headaches, blood transfusions, having a baby in the NICU, breastfeeding, etc. Ok so anyway.. Here we go…
Where do I even begin with this birth story? It’s going to be a LONG one, but I want to remember everything, regardless of how traumatic it might have been. What a whirlwind. I guess my girls just don’t like to come into this world on an uneventful occasion.
Looking back and knowing what I know now, I guess it all started back on Sunday (January 16th) night. I woke up Sunday night a few times having some major leg cramps, or Charlie Horses, as you might know them by. Severe pain! I was holding my legs and crying out to Gene to help me. I finally got them to go away and went back to bed. Didn’t think much of it at that time. And never really thought much of it until one morning I was sitting in the hospital and watching one of those morning shows and they were discussing top signs of dehydration. Guess what the very first and top sign was? LEG CRAMPS. Wow, had NO idea. It started to make sense at that point.
So Monday, all day long, I felt sick. Couldn’t eat or drink much, felt nauseated and tired. I pretty much stayed on the couch all day long while Zoey watched movies and played by herself. That evening I still felt bad but started having terrible pain in my abdomen. I spent most of the evening in bed while Gene took care of Zoey and I just laid in bed holding my stomach in pain. The pain would come and go, come and go, all night long. I got pretty much zero sleep that night and had Gene stay home from work that morning. I started getting paranoid around 4 AM that maybe my gall bladder was going bad or maybe I had appendicitis. I got up in the morning and took a shower and we decided to head to Labor and Delivery at the hospital to be checked out. We checked in at L&D around 9 AM and they sent my urine down to be analyzed and hooked me up to the contraction monitors. I was immediately having full on contractions every 2-3 minutes spaced evenly! I realized right then that all of the pain I had been experiencing the day and night before were actually contractions. They came back and gave me a shot of Brethine to stop the contractions and they did slow down a bit. Urine test came back showing a bladder infection and dehydration. They gave me a bag of fluids and another shot of Brethine and the contractions pretty much diminished. About 6 hours later they discharged me and we went home. I rested the rest of the afternoon because we were so exhausted from being up at the hospital all day.
I want to stop here for a second just to note that the hospital put us into a triage room, meaning a tiny room with a curtain and a VERY uncomfortable gurney for me to lay on, FOR SIX HOURS. Not only was this uncomfortable, but we had Zoey with us! A 21 month old, in a tiny triage room, FOR SIX HOURS. At one point, I had decided that I needed to call my Mom up at work and see if she could leave work and come get my child. I knew that this was not going to go well and I needed to get my toddler out of the hospital because it was looking like we would be there for a while. I had Gene hand me my phone and the first thing I see is a message from my Mom from earlier that morning, telling me that she had a fever, was vomitting and had stayed home from work today. Ugh!! I told myself not to panic, so I put my phone down and was trying to think of what to do. I later decided to call my sister, so I have Gene hand me my phone again only to have JUST received a text message from my sister telling me that she was at work, sick and throwing up and to please come get her and if I couldn’t, find someone who can. Oh and she wanted me to call my Mom and tell her. I replied to her text message saying basically: Mom is at home with a fever and throwing up, I am in the hospital in labor and Gene is with me but that I would call Dad. So I call my Dad, tell him that Mom is at home sick, which he already knew and that I was in the hospital in labor and Layla was sick at work and needed someone to go pick her up right away. Can you believe this crap?!?!?? Could this not have been worse timing?? My Sister and my Mom ended up having a TERRIBLE stomach virus that lasted days upon days. My Mom luckily started getting slightly better after a few days and was able to help watch Zoey and eventually come up to the hospital to see Kiera. But you’ll notice I had to call on my dear friend Malinda to come help with Zoey the first two nights that I went to the hospital because my family was so ill and couldn’t help! Thanks a LOT, Kiera! Great timing, little girl! By the way, Zoey ended up doing GREAT for being stuck in the hospital with us for SIX HOURS. She had one MAJOR break down, in which a sippy cup of milk and a short nap on Daddy’s lap cured. I was so proud of her considering the circumstances. Anyway…
That evening Gene did the normal routine and put Zoey to bed. I wrote up a grocery list of things we needed for the coming weeks to accommodate my Gestational Diabetic diet and he made a late trip (9 PM) to Walmart to grab some stuff. I sat down on the sofa and started typing up a blog post about the day we had just had. It took me a while to write and I finally clicked submit, after writing something along the lines of hoping this little girl would stay put a little longer.
Felt the urge to pee. Went to the bathroom, peed. Walked into the kitchen and took my blood sugar, it was getting low (81). The second after the 81 showed up on my glucometer, I felt a VERY small gush of liquid down my leg. I thought, weird I JUST peed why would I be peeing my pants?!?! It felt SO involuntary. It only took about a second for me to have all of these flashbacks of my water breaking with Zoey and realizing it was the EXACT same feeling I had with her. I walked quickly to the bathroom, as my heart pounded. Put on some new underwear, stood up and walked out of the bathroom. About three steps and I feel my underwear soaked and stuff running down my leg. Oh no. I did the thing that I pretty much HAD to do and smelled my underwear and I realized this was NOT urine, this was definitely my water breaking. I went through about 3 more pairs of underwear (just to make sure) and called Gene. This was about 10 PM, at this point. He was leaving Walmart. I said “You wont believe this” and he said “What?” and I said, “My water just broke”… I tried to calm him down, because NEITHER of us were ready for this. He came home, threw the grocery bags down in the entry way floor and started trying to get things ready in a hurry.
I called L&D at the hospital to tell them my water broke. The nurse says “Ok, tell me what makes you think it’s your water breaking” (She’s probably thinking, ok this lady just peed her pants) and I went on to explain that I had been up at the hospital all day for contractions, that my water broke with my daughter and I knew what it felt like and the most important fact of it all, that I smelled my soaked underwear and it had that distinct bleach-y clean type smell. She died laughing and said “Wow, I’ve never heard anyone describe it like that before, but I guess you’re right, it’s like a saline type smell.” She told me as long as I could feel baby moving, to eat something and take a shower and try to come in within’ a couple of hours. I wasn’t feeling baby move (it wasn’t her normal awake time of 1 in the morning yet, lol) but I knew she was ok. I ate a couple of peanut butter cookies and started to panic about what we were going to do with Zoey. Remember, my Mom and Sister had come down with a TERRIBLE stomach virus that day and could not help watch her and I really was not OK with waking her up and taking her up to the hospital with us. Gene needed to be in the operating room with me during my c-section, too.
I called my friend Malinda crying, telling her my situation. Because she is SUCH a saint and a sweet, wonderful friend, she didn’t even hesitate to come over. She was at my house within’ a good 30 minutes and Gene and I were preparing to leave. He gave her the low down on what to do with Zoey if she wakes up and what to do in the morning when she got up. I put groceries away, we finished packing a few last minute items and headed out the door. We were checked into the hospital at 12:01 AM, according to my hospital bracelet.
They got me put into a nice room. Hooked up to monitors and all comfy. I asked if my OB would be doing my c-section in the morning? The nurse said oh no, my OB would be here in about 45 minutes. WHAT?!? I think it REALLY hit me at that point. I couldn’t believe he would come in that late to do a c/s. She said he was at the hosital next door doing something and he would just like to swing by on his way home to do the c/s before he got home and got in bed. Seriously?!?! Haha.. I laugh at this now. At the time I was too much in shock! They gave me a bag of antibiotics due to my bladder infection news earlier in the day and also shaved my tummy. Threw Gene’s scrubs at him and he was busy getting the camera ready and txting my Mom and Malinda to let them know what was going on.
Right before surgery, my OB came into my room to talk to me, with a cup of coffee in hand (reassuring). They actually had me walk down to the operating room, which was also a surreal situation. Had to walk with a towel between my legs from my water leaking so much. The first spinal didn’t take and I ended up having a second one that did work.
The surgery itself was VERY traumatic. They had trouble getting her head out. They were having to push and pull my body. For those of you who have never had a c-section before, you can’t feel pain BUT you can very much feel tugging, pulling, etc. They were having to push and pull so hard and so much on my body, I felt like my entire body was being thrashed around. I felt like my organs were having extreme pressure put on them, especially my lungs. I had to ask for nausea medication from the anaesthesiologist almost immediately and I remember feeling SO miserable. Not from the nausea, but from the tugging and pulling and pressure being put on my internal organs. I moaned, groaned and I remember thinking that I just wanted this to end. I just wanted to be done with this and I couldn’t believe how miserable I felt. I remember distinctly feeling like: I wish they could give me general anaesthesia so I could be out of it. I wasn’t even that concerned about seeing the baby. I knew Gene would take care of her and love her enough for the both of us at first. I just wanted to be put out of my misery. Just thinking back on this experience brings tears to my eyes. It was bad, very bad. She was out, they opened the window on the curtain and I saw her little blue-ish body. The NICU team was waiting and taking care of her. Gene took pictures, the nurse brought her to me to see her after they cleaned her off and then they whisked her off to the NICU. Gene followed. They stitched me up, put me back on my hospital bed and whisked me off. I remember VERY little after this point.
I remember being sick. Nauseated. Freezing cold, sweating profusely, not feeling well at all. Very miserable feeling! Gene said I was bleeding a lot right after surgery and that they were having to give me pain medication in my IV just to get me to roll to my sides so they could change my pads. I don’t remember this at all. I do remember that they were putting me into a new room (post partum/recovery room) and my hospital bed’s functions were not working correctly so they wanted to put me in a new bed. I remember sitting there, feeling sick and nauseated and pretty much dead to the world. I remember a very awful, young, reddish blond, freckle faced nurse (young, about my age, I would guess) trying to get me to scoot to the new bed. They pushed the beds side by side and she wanted me to scoot my body over to the new bed. According to Gene, this was only a few hours after surgery. I remember my legs were bricks. The anaesthesia was wearing off around my upper abdomen but my legs were still as solid as ever. I remember trying with my arms (even though I was SO sick and didn’t even want to move at this point) to move over and could not even move a centimeter. How do you scoot or move when your entire body from under your breasts and down are completely NUMB and you feel sick and DEAD on top of that??? She was getting frustrated with me and got down and said, “Listen, I’ve had two c-sections and I know how it is. So let’s do this.” in THE MOST CONDESCENDING TONE I’VE EVER HEARD. Are you effing kidding me?!?!?? She walked out and a very sweet, Indian (as in the country India, not Native American, not that it really matters) nurse suggested to me to stay in my jacked up bed until I felt better and could feel my body and then we could switch to a new bed. I said YES that would be great. Or actually, I probably nodded while dry heaving. They finally told the Wicked Witch this and she left me alone. For some reason they decided the room I was in was not big enough so they moved me down the hall to another room, which was slightly larger. I didn’t know why they were doing this, but I was too sick to really care. For a comparison of how sick and out of it I was, I just want to throw in here that when I had Zoey, I was talking to my Mom on my cell phone 45 minutes after my c-section about Zoey’s birth. This time? I don’t think I talked to ANYONE until much later in the day. I don’t even REMEMBER the first 8 hours, if that, after this surgery.
Now, I can’t remember a timeline of how things happened after this point.. The coming days in the hospital were a blur. I was so sick at first and had so many complications that I can’t remember dates and times of what happened, so instead of continuing in timeline fashion, I’ll just outline the things that happened that I remember in future entries. Look forward to those in the coming days!